Anatomy of Change

How many times have you gotten frustrated with trying to make a change in your life?

Maybe it’s eating habits, language skills, or improving interpersonal relationships.

No matter what it is, realize that there is a process when integrating change into your life, into your business, or into your career. It is not difficult, but it does take consistency and a true desire for the change.

So now what?

You’ve decided you want to change, and it feels right.

Stage 1

That is where the behavior still happens, you reflect, apologize, soul search the real root cause, and strategize for the change. Maybe you give up thinking this is too hard. If you keep going and do the work to soul search and strategize, stage 2 happens quickly.

Stage 2

This is where you still get triggered and have an overpowering urge to go back into that old behavior pattern, but now you recognize the trigger. You try to enact the strategy you came up with and stumble as you still do the thing you want to change, and it is very awkward. This is progress, and this is also a point where you might want to throw in the towel. HANG IN THERE, change is around the corner.

Stage 3

Here is where results are witnessed. This is where you are still triggered but no longer react, you respond instead. You have come to terms with the root cause of your trigger and you have developed plans on how to deal with it and they now work. Congratulations, but you are not yet done.

Stage 4

This is the day that you realize you no longer have a reaction to that old trigger. You can’t even imagine what that used to feel like. People who quit smoking after a few years don’t even remember what that urge really felt like and any changed behavior gets to this stage when you stick to your strategy.

This is why change is a journey. In a large corporation or in your own personal experience, you need to bravely face the root cause, the real reason why you respond. You need a real reason why the change is desired, and then it takes intestinal fortitude, it takes support, it takes consistency, it takes community and yes it takes coaching to incorporate change in any aspect of your life.

You have the power to choose how you respond each day. The practice of conscious choice and being present in the uniqueness of the moment allows you to take control, accept responsibility, and be aware that your perception, response, and results belong to you alone.

I know you can do it. What’s holding you back?

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