How can you heal from a broken heart, disillusionment, or repeating negative patterns in your life?
Does your perfectionism get in your way of actually moving forward, things just aren’t good enough?
Maybe you can’t let go of a situation or a person even though you know hanging on is not helping.
Do you find it difficult to be vulnerable, confident, or deserving with what matters in your life?
I have had the opportunity to meet with people on The Empowering Process Podcast and discuss life’s pain points that have held people back, and what can be done about moving forward, freely.
Some of the common themes that have come up are around creating and holding on to fear and shame.
These are the main drivers causing you, or that person you know, to live life feeling powerless and potentially existing in a fog of uncertainty.
These feelings have been intensified over the past few years as people have felt more isolated or dug into fearfulness from the pain of loss or potential loss.
So, I thought I would share some thoughts around understand why you might really be feeling like you have no options.
Disempowerment is that feeling of losing control over your life, your circumstances, or of self. Being in this state alone brings on more fear and more loss of power. It is a cycle that feeds into itself.
These are times you can feel so stuck in your circumstances that you believe you have lost all choices.
Disempowerment happens when there are no alternatives you can wrap your arms around and you believe you are unable to take action.
You have given your power away.
You are looking for someone or for something outside of you to come to the rescue and bring you safety, security, or love.
And it doesn’t happen or happens for a fleeting moment.
Taking your power back, once again living with potentiality and joy, takes commitment and work. It requires that you focus on taking baby steps every day overcoming one manageable aspect of what is holding you back.
1 – Remember a time in your life when you were in control of your choices. How did this feel? What were you doing at that time? Feel, breath, and stand the way you did then. Hold your head up, shoulders back, and remind yourself, you got this. You did it before, you can do it again.
2 – When it feels like things can only get worse, remind yourself that you have come through things like this before. Remember step one and that sometimes you just need to let it go. This is an opportunity to shift your focus to something positive you can control and do right now in your life and come back to solutioning later.
3 – Do not be afraid of the unknown, the fear, or the shame. Get to know the why of your feeling and love that your able to receive warning signs that something is off. This is when you appreciate your emotions and ask what the message is for change that is buried in this emption and how can you move forward.
Taking on the responsibility of healing means you push through, face yourself, and discovered what your innate gifts are. It means knowing this is hard and moving forward anyway.
Healing disempowerment that has its root in fear and shame does not happen with a weekend retreat. It does not happen with reading books, reading blogs, or listening to videos. It does not happen with a deep conversation with your coach.
It takes allowing yourself to know you are worthy of self-care and self-development. It takes having someone at your side guiding you through the barriers that could hold you back. It takes someone who has done it and is willing to go through it with you.
Let’s talk and see if I am that someone for you. Schedule our discovery meeting today.
Please note: The information in this post is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images, and information, contained in, or associated with these posts are for general information purposes only. Gail is not a doctor or therapist. Nothing she says should be taken as medical advice. Please consult a professional if you struggle with anxiety or any other health condition.