“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” – JK Rollings
You’ve probably heard the stories about hitting “rock bottom” and rising from the ashes. Heck, you probably have a few examples of these yourself.
So, what is going on when things are going great, your vision of success has been achieved, and you are “living the dream” but still feel like you’re outside looking in?
In fact, right now that dream might be feeling like a nightmare you can’t wake up from.
You’re confused. You have success and happiness, but lately you feel a void. You may even be wondering what is wrong with you.
Many of us, when we find ourselves grabbing the brass ring of achievement, discover that our goals had no meaning for us, and life just seems empty.
Believe me, I’ve been there and have a few examples of what was going on in my life and, if you can relate to any of this, how you could, like me, take the steps to climb back into the light.
None of your life plans make sense.
Sometimes you go through life, check all the boxes, and then one day you stop dead in your tracks. Why am I doing this anyway?
When this day came for me, I questioned my career, my marriage, my home, and wondered how I ever got to where I was. I looked back at what I had been doing and, when I looked forward, decided I did not want to continue on this path.
No matter what choice I made, it would have required major changes in my life based on discovering what I personally wanted and what I needed to change to get there.
Navigating change when life doesn’t make sense means you look for ways to be open and receptive to what you can learn from the experience and what is most important to you. Your emotional state will make it challenging to focus on the positive potential and manage good choices. I turned to counselling for guidance and support and I continue, today, to work with seasoned coaches and thought leaders to help me figure my way through these mazes.
You don’t like the person you see in the mirror.
You might have heard the story of when I moved across country and then ended up being fired. The anger and toxicity I stepped into after this event was palpable.
What the heck!
I ran huge corporations, spent time as a member on multiple boards of director, and managed multi-million-dollar initiatives for international organizations! Who did they think they were to fire me?
I took them to court, and during the process of holding them responsible, I lost sight of where I was accountable.
One day I looked in the mirror and was shocked at who looked back. I really did not like who I had become, and I did not want to continue in this manner.
My journey of learning my personal values, boundaries, and dreams began that day and I have never looked back. Taking responsibility for how I contributed to this event was a hard nut to crack, but when I did, I was able to look at all my choices, past and present, and see how I played a role in the way things turned out. Good and maybe not so good, it all stemmed from the choices I made and from the emotional state I was in when making them.
So, if you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, know that this is a good thing!
This means you are ready to find the person deep inside who is amazing and forgive the choices you made in the past. This means you are ready to work with someone who you resonate with that can help you understand this new journey you are about to embark on. This means you are ready to learn how to make different choices and see different results show up in your life.
You want to pack your bags and slip away.
I have felt this way when I am feeling overwhelmed and just can’t face what is happening. I call it my “Stop the World, I Want to Get Off” moments. In this play the main character, Littlechap, steps out and addresses the audience after each major upheaval and shouts out “Stop the World.” He searches for success in his riches and always chasing after something more. You guessed it, when his wife passed away he recognized what he missed out on in his life.
When you feel like leaving it all behind, it is an indication that it’s time to figure out what needs to change. It is also a time to reflect on what has worked, what value have you brought, and assess what your personal values really are.
And then, sometimes you just need to allow things to fall apart for something new to be created. Are things falling apart or are new things falling into place? Give yourself a chance to figure this out.
You have permission to feel the feelings and get curious about why. Is it time for a new season in your life? Is it time to take responsibility for your outcomes? Is it time to let things fall apart to allow change into your life?
You don’t need to navigate alone. It takes having someone at your side guiding you through the barriers that could hold you back. It takes someone who has done it and is willing to go through it with you.
Let’s talk and see if I am that someone for you. Schedule our discovery meeting today.