There was a time in my life, when asked if I felt worthy, I would respond with a resounding “yes.”
How about you? You may think you are; you may know you should feel you are; you may project an image that you are; but is it how you feel about yourself deep down?
Not sure? Listen to that little voice in your head:
- This always happens to me, and I hate how I feel.
- Maybe I’m not cut out for this, I’m just not good enough.
- This always happens to me, and I just can’t do anything to fix it.
- I am stuck and will just have to suck it up.
I bet you could add more examples of the things people you know say that are clear indicators they do not feel worthy.
The issue here is that in feeling this way, you open yourself up to a slew of physical and emotional complications as well. Some examples are:
- Emotional distress
- Living with no or unhealthy boundaries
For me, when I bottom line this, I can come up with one common factor. If I do not feel worthy, then I do not believe I deserve to be loved.
So, let’s take a look at how you may or may not be taking care of you first and, therefore, how you do or do not show yourself the love and attention you deserve.
- Do you settle when given choices, not feeling comfortable asking for what you want?
- When you look in the mirror, what is it that you really see? Nothing but flaws and fixes?
- Do you avoid your feelings, pushing them down so as not to rock the boat?
- Do you believe you are able to love others, lavish them with all you have, and yet don’t give yourself the same grace?
If any of this resonates with you, and especially if you are hiding from that resonation, then imagine if you took just one item and looked at it in a different way. That one thing you think you are ready to let go of and something you believe you can do.
What kind of life do you want? Are you ready to commit to you first in one category to start with? Are you brave enough to reach out for help and be honest with letting go of the pain?
Imagine if you set yourself free?
For now, here is a small exercise to get you on your path.
Take the one item you selected, when the negative reaction begins, stop, and imagine if someone you love were feeling this emotion or responding in that manner. How would you encourage them to look at the opposite possibilities?
Do this exercise to anchor in shifting your perspective.
- Get a journal and draw a line down the middle.
- On the left side, make a list of all the reasons you used to believe this was true.
- On the right side, next to each item, list three reasons why this belief is no longer true.
- Circle one of those reasons that is most true for you.
- Before you go to bed, write these positive reasons you circled out 10 times each as affirmations of yourself.
You deserve to be loved, you deserve to be heard, you deserve to hold to your boundaries, and you deserve your heart’s desire.
It takes intentionality, decision, and choice. It’s up to you to know when you are ready for a change.
What would it take for you to set yourself free, to believe in yourself, to know your choices matter?
It takes allowing yourself to feel worthy of self-care and self-development. It takes having someone at your side guiding you through the barriers that could hold you back. It takes someone who has done it and is willing to go through it with you. Let’s talk and see if I am that someone for you. Schedule our discovery meeting today.