“Few of us ever live in the present. We are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.” Louis L’Amour
How many times have you heard:
- be in the present
- “be here now”
- live in the moment
And then there’s:
- remember where you came from
- learn from the past
- don’t repeat the past
And so often you are prompted to:
- dream big
- create your vision
- set goal
Confusing, isn’t it?
I once thought so too.
Stick with me as I take you on a small journey through the past, future, and present. This may seem familiar and yet a little strange for some of you, so here’s my perspective.
Your past does not define you but has provided experiences that allow you to clearly know what you want and what you don’t want. There are lessons for you that help you determine how they shape you. At any moment you can change that.
- You know what happened and you forgive any participants in events that are hot buttons for you.
- Let them go and heal your wounds.
- Move forward with battle scars but don’t bring the war with you.
From your past experiences you can choose your current actions with specific intention to be better, do more, and bring harm to no one. Learn how to let go of your past so you can more clearly look forward.
Now you get to look to your future, but don’t live there.
I had a sister-in-law that lived her life saying “the dream is…” When the time came to live any dream, there was nothing but confusion, frustration, and disappointment. You see, she lived in hopes, and never planned for how that unfolds. She lived in the future and when the present caught up, there was nothing of the dream to be seen.
When I talk about vision with you, I am talking about something that excites you and brings shivers down your spine. Maybe it is way out there, unachievable, and crazy, but it’s yours.
Elon Musk plans to colonize space. Why? His vision is to expand the reach of humanity. His SpaceX ship has made it to mars and he is adding “spaceship” to future potential products to work on for its future designers.
How big is your dream and how outrageous is your vision? You see, once you nail something big and bold down, you make choices in the present that align to feeling how amazing realizing this dream could be.
And in reality, the only moment you have control over right now. If you are hanging on to the past or stuck in a hopeful future mode, you are stealing time from right now. Time is relative but it is also finite.
Living in the present What you choose to do when you face a hurdle next time determines how the future shapes up for you.
When you lose time, you’re never getting it back. You can not turn back; you can only move froward from the point you are at right this moment.
Make every minute of your life count. If you choose to look back at your past and its pain (or past glory), you’re losing time. If you think of time like money, you are spending it on something you can not change and it is gone.
You visions gives you something to achieve. I call it my guiding light. You are able to make conscious choices right now that align with your big outrageous vision. Small steps today result in big changes in the future.
You have the power of choice. The practice of conscious choice and being present in the uniqueness of the moment allows you to take control, accept responsibility, and be aware that your perception, response, and results belong to you alone.
Isn’t it time for you? You know it is. Go ahead and schedule a complimentary session with me today at: Complimentary Coaching