Until We Are Lost

“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.” ~Henry David Thoreau

Have you ever felt lost in your life? Maybe there was a time when you absolutely had no direction? Decisions were hard to make. Life seemed to be a fog.

Maybe you have a friend or family member you watched go through something like this. Maybe they have not yet come out the other side.

And still you might be wondering, what do I mean by being lost?

There are many signs that tell you things are out whack. You have a sense that something is off, for an extended period of time. Decisions are unclear and a general feeling of being trapped overwhelms you.

Here are a few examples that hit home with me.

  • You are not consciously making life choices; you simply drift through life and so here you are.
  • You have no idea why you are doing what you are doing, it simply pays the bills.
  • You find that It is hard to get motivated about the meaningfulness of your relationships, your family, your career.
  • You cannot shake that feeling of being overloaded, burnt out, and out of sorts with all the demands you face each day.

I can honestly say that I have been in these positions, and more, throughout my life.

This biggest pivotal event happened when I moved 3,000 miles away from home to San Diego. In the process of moving, I landed a job that I thought would be a great fit. Day 1, after selling my home and moving, I knew this was not the company for me. However, I knew no one and was making a good salary, so got comfortable with being uncomfortable, not liking what I was doing and who I was doing it for every day.

Fear kept me frozen.

After a few years of trying to make it work, suppressing my values to conform, changing my approach to make someone else happy, burying issues that no one wanted surfaced, the dam finally broke, and I got fired.

This whole experience actually created a PTSD syndrome with me, and I was angry, jumpy, and volatile.

Until I realized I did not like who I had become.

It was time for me to take responsibility for my actions, good and bad. Results were mine to own and changes needed to be made if I was ever going to get my life back on track.

This was not an overnight success. It took some retraining of my mindset. It took forgiving myself when I fell off the wagon. It took being accountable for what I choose to do and say every day.

Not apologetically, but authentically honoring who I am.

It is when we are lost that we stop the struggle and allow for a different perspective to take hold.

You have the power to choose how you respond. The practice of conscious choice and being present in the uniqueness of the moment allows you to take control, accept responsibility, and be aware that your perception, response, and results belong to you alone.

You don’t have to be lost anymore and you don’t have to navigate through this alone.

Isn’t it time for you?

You know it is. Go ahead and schedule a complimentary session with me today at: Complimentary Coaching

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