How can I help you?
When was the last time you heard those words? When was the last time you spoke those words? When was the last time you applied those words to yourself?
This is the most beautiful phase in the Universe. There is so much emotion going on with both sides of this polarity and so much heart, both breaking and healing.
You see, in order for you to be able to help, there must also be those in need. I am not a person who wants to perpetuate lack in anyone, but this state exists.
For the person in need
For many of you, not being able to provide, both physically and emotionally, for yourself and your family has a certain stigma as well as a huge concern. When you’re on this slippery slope of lack you feel extreme vulnerability, frustration and anger. These emotions keep hitting like a tsunami, wave after wave, slamming against your self-esteem and worth.
- When at the bottom, you can let go of everything. This is many times true, because you hang onto situations that you should have walked away from sooner.
- When you’re in pain you take action. The fear of change is sometimes so strong in you it is only when the now seems more painful than the unknown future that you finally take a step that is different.
- You believe the struggle is where change begins. Some of you believe that creating something new begins with struggle.
For me, in the past, when I realized I was on the slope of lack (physically, emotionally and spiritually) I remembered when I was at my worst. The FEAR I experienced was that I was on a slope heading past that previous threshold. My belief was that there is strength in knowing how to get out of the bottom.
I’ve always gotten a hand reached out to help me up again, and I am grateful for that. I now realize I can continue on a path of having all that I desire, always moving forward, leaving the slide of lack behind me.
For the person giving support
You all know people who are right there to support others; first in line when help is needed, reaching out on a regular basis. Maybe you are one of them. Do you know that giving actually is helping too?
- You feel better when you help. Helping other people can benefit you both mentally and physically. You are less likely to feel depressed or feel anxiety when your focus is on the needs of others.
- You are genetically built to help. We are a social animal and helping each other is a natural instinct for survival. You have a desire to reach out, regardless of what you have been taught.
- You feel a sense of social responsibility. Many of you help each other out because it’s the social norm. In a group setting (club, work, church) the norms are things that are accepted by this “society,” because they benefit the society.
Now, when I am there to support you it is me, holding space, quietly listening, and allowing you to be on your journey. I am holding no expectations nor do I hold any judgement. You are perfect in your calling for help as well as your ability to show up for others, in the only way that you can.
Relax and stop hiding from who you are and what you need. Tap into your resources, reach out to your tribe, open up to the potential that is you. You have the power to choose how you respond and how you use your energy each day. This is a practice of conscious choice and being present in the uniqueness of the moment. Take control, accept responsibility, and be aware that your perspective, response, and results belong to you alone. You know it’s time for even more.
If not now, when?