Have there been times in your life where your world seems to have fallen apart? Have you discovered that life is full of unknowns? A death, divorce, or global concern are all shocks and disrupters that can catch you by surprise.
It is during these times that you have the opportunity to show up and be a model of possibility. Be the person of reason, strength, and potential. Be the on that sees hope and choice in the developing change in life’s circumstances.
How are you showing up?
Perpetuating or Releasing
When you experience your world going awry, your first response is concern for safety. In this moment you can either perpetuate the anxiety you feel or release it.
If you Replay potential negative outcomes in your mind you tend to overestimate the likelihood that bad things will happen. You exaggerate the impact that these things might have on you. You see doom on the horizon. You fall into a negative cycle of what-if and get locked into feeling anxious and actually perpetuate the problem.
It is when you step back, take a breath, and relax that you are able to better tap into a desire to connect with what is truly important Nurture thoughts of nonjudgmental, take stock of what is really happening, and become present-focused. It is in this state of calmness that you are able to release the unknown and make better choices.
Reacting or Getting Curious
Fear creates an involuntary reaction that helps you quickly respond to potential threats. It is immediate. When you hang onto this fear, you develop a foreboding and you go on alert to future threats. It is during these highly charged emotional states that decisions made are irrational, behavior becomes out of character, and your ability to hear reason dissolves.
Getting curious about yourself and what is going on is the first step to getting back control of your choices. Asking questions such as:
- Is this issue ever going to change?
- How do I want this to turn out?
- What would happen if I did nothing?
- What would happen if I were part of the solution?
- What would that look like?
Get calm, get curious, get in control and be in a position to make positive conscious choices that heal.
How you show up, in every situation in life, is a reflection of where you are with yourself. Are you anxious and unsure of your future or are you composed and excited about your contribution?
The choice is yours. Choose to appreciate who you are and live in the moment. This is a practice of conscious choice and being present in the uniqueness of the moment. Take control, accept responsibility, and be aware that your perspective, response, and results belong to you alone.
You know it’s time for even more.
If not now, when?