“My best personality trait that I think I’m very approachable. And my worst is that I can be moody.” Enrique Iglesias
Have you been called too moody? Maybe you have a friend or family member that seems a bit extreme when giving into their feelings. One moment happy, the next in tears. Understand, there are times when a chemical imbalance creates highs and lows. Imbalances due to some physical trauma or physical issue. These moods are valid responses to a physical issue underway.
When you experience mood swings, or someone outside of you infers that you are “moody today,” and you do NOT have a physical reason for this feeling, you are probably reacting to something that has triggered you to relive an emotional incident and respond in kind. Happy, sad, angry, caring, etc. are created by your thoughts, beliefs, and memories and your response is automatic. Call it habit, routine, subconscious response, or any other tag you feel comfortable with, mood swings usually are in response to your interpretation of events.
Everyone has them. Each one of you deal with them in your own unique way. Some of you even struggle to control them and find yourself exhausted with the effort.
“She fell into the moody, miserable state of mind which often comes when strong wills have to yield to the inevitable.” Louisa May Alcott
Whether you simply let your moods swing, dance around the low moments, or struggle to get them under control, you do have the power to consciously change your mood. You see, when there is not a physical reason for how you are feeling, it is most likely the way you perceive your environment, your situation, or your relationships that triggers your mood.
Things will happen that can “put you in a mood” and there are some choices you can make to look at each situation from different perspectives.
Does it seem impossible to make big life changes, and even small decisions appear to be harder and harder to get a handle on? This often occurs when your logical mind is saying yes, but something is telling you no. Next time envision the best-case scenario and make your decision based on that. You get a perspective that is unclouded by negativity or doubt and you shine a light on what is possible.
Anger or Stress
Low-grade anger, resentment or stress can cause you to be irritable and snap at others over a minor infraction. You may notice your body feeling tense, you can’t sleep, or wake up worried. Your emotional state feels frayed all the time. When this happens, become aware of how you are feeling, stop, and focus on your breath. Notice the in and out of your lungs and imagine the regenerating and calming oxygen reaching all the cells in your body. Each muscle begins to relax, release, and repair your body bit by bit. Begin to change your language to more positive choices of words. I can, I am able to, I believe this is possible.
Sullen or Gloomy
You’re feeling a bit sad, somewhat gloomy, and maybe even guilty that you even feel this way. Being gloomy does not mean anything is wrong with you. You might find that you focus on how your gloominess cuts you off from others. Enjoy what being a gloomy person offers you, What are the activities that fulfill you? Explore your mood and don’t suppress it. Get in touch with yourself, stay active, keep your energy moving, and connect with people.
“And people are moody, dude. You gotta get used to living with people.” John Green
Pay attention today and become aware of who you are and the choices you make. Success is there for you right now. All you do is take control of your life, make conscious choices, and be aware that your responses and your life belongs to you along. You know it’s time to take control of your life.
If not now, when?
You don’t have to go there alone.