What if who you think you are is actually who you were told you are, and not really you at all?
Have you ever had the feeling that you do not have choices that are clear? Maybe the path of your life is by accident and not by design? Are there times that you felt you were not where you should be, doing what you should do, or being with who you should be with?
Throughout your life you have been given the opportunity to exercise free will. You choose when to get up, to eat, and to go to sleep. You choose what to believe is right and not so right. You believe your path is this way or that. Day in and out the choices you make are based on what you believe to be true.
The paradox is that the unconscious choices you make are based on programs with a set of boundaries and beliefs and you live your life based on these truths that may not serve who you really are.
When these values and beliefs you grew up with are compromised, you feel bad or guilty. Even if you make a choice that is congruent with your best interest, if it goes against a norm that you believe to be true, you feel wrong. As a result, many of you go through life making choices within the boundaries of your programming in order to feel more comfortable with your life, even when they may not be good for you, the individual. Although you believe you are making conscious choices, you are restricted based on a set of rules that are arbitrary and constricting.
Here are examples of some basic beliefs or values that are guiding your choices. For example,
Appreciation. You recognize the good qualities of someone or something, and all that life has to offer. You routinely send thank you cards, emails, or phone calls because you are expected to do so. If you miss one, you feel guilty.
Discipline. You act according to the rules, follow a routine, or regimen. When balanced in your life, discipline brings structure, develops or improves a skill, or provides boundaries to get things accomplished. Relying on discipline may require you to do things you really prefer not to. Go to that luncheon, provide a service, or even remain in a relationship that is no longer serving you.
Excellence. If you are a type “A” personality, you probably strive for excellence in everything you do. This means perfection, the very best, distinguishing, and, in some cases, honorable. Sometimes you will miss the mark and you might then feel unworthy. Or maybe you expect others to have the same value system as you and look down on those who do not, bordering on snobbery. In both cases, how is this unbending expectation working for you every day?
Trust: Or trustworthy. This is a belief that you can rely on others and that you can be depended on. You expect that something will happen, that people are good and honest. You believe you will not be hurt and the situation you are in is safe and reliable. If you are trusting without healthy boundaries you create attachments to outcomes. You have expectation of others that may be unrealistic and have the potential to be disappointed, hurt, or taken advantage of.
It’s time to ask yourself why you choose what you choose, why you are drawn to certain people of situations in your life, and why you think something is right or wrong, good or bad, true or not true.
It’s your actions that define you, so it is important to be aware of why you choose the actions that you choose. Live your life in the question conscious choice. Are you choosing that which is best for who you are? Are you choosing based on ego or based on alignment with your purpose?
“When changing your values to match your genuine character, you generate the positive energy required to attract people and a way of life that matches your true vibration, and a life of peace and serenity will become possible.” ~ Sherry Gaba
I invite you to discover who you are on your own terms. Engage in conscious living; take time to decide what’s important to who you are and what you want to become and let the rest go. Define your own actions now.
If not now, when?
Make conscious choices for conscious living now.